I spoke yesterday about handling setbacks and what I believe is a good way to cope when you feel as though you are going to have to deal with any type of challenge, obstacle, or a physical or emotional setback in recovery. I talked about how our minds often wander to places that only cause us anxiety since the reality is that we aren’t able to control many things. The key to being able to handle a setback of any kind is to do everything you can now to be as physically and emotionally strong as you can. The best thing for you to do is to be accepting of who you are, where you are in life, and have a fulfilling life with meaningful relationships. If you are a confident and secure person, a challenge or obstacle being thrown your way won’t be as devastating as it would for someone who is in a less secure place emotionally and/or physically.
If you work hard every day to be the best you that you can be and work to bring meaning and purpose to your life, it will do wonders for you in so many ways. One of those ways is that it will make it easier for you to handle any type of setback. I know those of us with chronic illnesses who are being hit hard from a lot of different angles with seemingly no break or end in sight are going to read this and think “well how do I get myself strong? What can I do for myself so that setbacks (which happen so frequently) aren’t so devastating to me?” I honestly don’t have an easy answer for you other than to tell you that I have been there and you are not alone.
The one thing I have going for me now that I never had before is that if this whole PG thing should turn out the way I hope it doesn’t, I have a wonderful support system. I not only have my parents who have been by my side through it all since the day I was diagnosed 12 years ago, but I also have friends who understand and “get it.” My advice to someone with a chronic illness who really doesn’t have the time or energy, unfortunately, to truly heal and build a stronger foundation, is to reach out and embrace your community. Having a support system can change everything for you. It can turn an incredibly devastating and awful situation into a terrible situation but one that is manageable. It is okay to find the strength you need from the people in your life if you feel too weak yourself. Lean on whomever you need to and hopefully it will make you stronger like it has done for me.