I have this desperate need to want to bring up the topic about how you know when to bite your tongue and when to voice your opinion. This topic and question has come up today when I got an email from a friend of mine asking me to check something out that she saw posted. It was another blog post about invisible illness week. And to be honest, it was one that was shocking and truly offensive to anyone who actually needs support and understanding. It was one that showed just how out of touch this person was with the illness he/she claims to be an advocate for. It was one so judgmental that I don’t know how anyone who is the slightest bit sick ever reads and identifies with this person.
My question that I want to throw out there is how do you know when you should challenge someone? There is challenging someone/voicing your opinion, or there is biting your tongue. How do you know what situation calls for what? Do I have a right to challenge this individual about the post he/she has just written? Or is it none of my business what this person chooses to write and the opinions he/she shares?
I am personally someone who likes a good debate but that isn’t what this is about. I am not sitting here wondering if I should debate this person for my own personal amusement. I am wondering if I should step in and voice my opinions and concerns for what this so called advocate is sharing with people and the impression this person is leaving with not only patients, but people who are trying to understand for a loved one. It is posts like this one that made me feel like I was so inadequate before I really met other people living with IBD. It is posts like this one that I have read that have made me feel like I was an extremely weak person for having the feelings and reactions I was having to such a traumatic situation.
So, I ask once again… do I bite my tongue or do I voice my opinions?